Friday, 1 April 2011
Being Positive.....a bit of a "deep" post for me...
But today, I really felt a conviction in my heart about the way I see her....the way I say not so nice things about her...for example: People often stop us to comment on her eyes...or her hair (which she has masses of)... strangers in the street or in shops etc stop us to say...."oh what a cutie" or "your baby is so gorgeous" to which I reply..."Well don't let those looks fool you....she's a (insert one of the following).. ratbag/little madam/brat/full on little menace and so on and so forth.
Now even though its said in a half joking manner, I have realised that these words I have spoken over her time and time again are really sinking in and making me see her in that way. In a tainted light I guess.
A lovely friend pointed out to me today some really positive things about my Kendyl, and also my big boy, and also encouraged me on my mothering... and for the first time in a long while, I really believed it (particularly the bit about my little girl). Yes, she is just a "normal" 2yr old bub testing out her limits...she is full on and confident, and is learning to stand up for herself.. Yes she is a bit of a cutie and when people compliment her, I should thank them instead of coming up with a "line" about her...
I hope this lovely friend doesn't mind that I'm going to share her message with others....but it was so encouraging to me that I bawled and felt really awesome after reading it... Here's what she wrote:
Chloë ****** 31 March at 20:29 Report
Had another thing to say - coz you know - I always have something to say LOL
I have had random people talk to me about how lovely your kids are. Both of them. They are extremely lovely children. Not only very very cute but really lovely natured too. Gentle and kind and mindful of other people. Really really awesome kiddos.
I kid you not. Random people. And I quote:
"That Asher Bassett is such a sweet boy. Just such a nice kid, you know?" from a mother of someone else in your boys class at school
"Kendyl is the sweetest child ever. I just want to steal her, she is so lovely" Another Playcentre Mum
They are a credit to your great parenting. Really. And I think sometimes its nice to hear something good about our kids. We all think so much about the things we need to work on that its easy to forget all the things we have done right.
I see your mothering and I just think you are fantastic. Right back to the first day I met you at Playcentre and you were playing a game with your Asher and you were his wife ♥ I remember thinking - what a cool Mum!
How nice to have such cool/awesome and encouraging friends huh?
Just made my day.
I am making an effort now....to focus on the positive....to parent with love and understanding ... and to enjoy my blessings!