Tuesday, 28 February 2012

Wedding and Watery Weekend

 I’m a bit late posting about our weekend… but here it is anyway! (always behind and late me!!)

On Saturday our band was playing at a wedding up in the Bay of Islands at a beautiful bay called “Waipiro Bay”.  The wedding was lovely, nice and casual, and not at all stressy (which we love…as Bride-zillas are TERRIBLE to deal with).  This Bride was the furthest thing from a Bridezilla ever! 

We had a cool little set up in our own little “enclosure” and the dancers congregated on the little patch of lawn immediately in front of us and further up the way there was another little marquee where people could still enjoy the band, but have a bit of a conversation if they wanted to, without being overwhelmed with the music! 
It was a good set up, and a great night. 
I got home at 4.15am!! ………….. tired after our solid 4hour performance then packing down and then driving back along the winding and misty roads, towing a huge enclosed trailer with HEAVY band equipment…and “free” cows happily wandering along the roadside as they pleased (yes…very long trip home!).

I had planned to have a bit of a sleep in the next morning, however the kids sounded so cute, I got up and played with them for a bit, and pottered around.  We then decided to go to the local swimming pools. 

The kids had a great time!  Hubby did too.  Asher just loved the water/hydro slides!  We had a ball, and had some nice hot chippies and an iced choc and then went home again.

For me the rest of the afternoon/evening was a bit of a blur due to the fact that I was totally exhausted, and had taken some tramadol for a head/neck ache, and this led to me zoning in and out of  a coma-like state.  At one stage I woke up in front of the tele making some horrible snoring kinda noise…yes I woke myself up…how BAD is that? Lol.  Warren just smirked and shook his head at me!

So that was my weekend, and this weekend our band is playing another wedding but this time up in Kohukohu, in the Hokianga!  Should be good fun!

Thursday, 23 February 2012

Laid back

Just thought I would share this cute pic of my dogs snout...  He loves laying on the ground upside down.  He can lay there for hours if you ignore him.....  Some days I'd love to lay back...on the ground, and watch the world come and go! ;)

Monday, 20 February 2012

Just stuff

Yes it's me, the one who said I was going to make a real effort this year with my blogging.... and since the beginning of this year has blogged a whole TWO times.  Yes  Not TWENTY TWO... just TWO! (2).

Sad blogger... slack blogger...useless blogger...redundant blogger!  I deserve all those awards.

I have been preoccupied, though that's not really an excuse, I could find 5 minutes a day to write down a few ramblings I guess, however my mojo has completely flown out the window.  Don't get me wrong every single day I think of all sorts of cool stuff that I could be blogging about, only to come in to the computer and sit here just too pooped to get it down. .............. oh well. Can only get better I guess!

I'm feeling like a bit of a slack friend also, as I haven't had the time or energy really to get out there and socialise (well, as much as usual)... I haven't had the "catch-ups" I wanted, or spent the time I should with the friends I normally would, but I'm sure it will all be back to normal soon.

The ones at the forefront of my focus at the moment........ are these 2...

It’s amazing how things really “jolt” into perspective when you face some unpleasant situations.
Many times I hear people ranting about the unfairness of life… because they’ve got a speeding ticket, or they couldn’t go to this show or that, or because the weather wasn’t nice.  I feel a bit bad actually as sometimes I want to yell at them…. “be glad you’re alive… and healthy…. and not stuck in a hospital bed 24/7, facing many more weeks there too!!  I feel bad because it’s not their fault my Dad’s stuck where he is, or that my Mum’s stressing about Dad too, and feeling the separation caused by his hospitalization………but I cant help but get a little miffed by their petty little complaints! 

I must be turning into a right grumpy bum!  Soon nobody will want to be around me!! Lol.

Yes…I’ve been pretty family-absorbed lately, and I know it.  I know things will return to normal soon! 

This pic to the right is late one night after we'd settled Dad down for the evening, we went out to Dennys for dinner....is it Dennys or Wendys??? I always get them confused!?  We went out and had a gi-normous Steak meal...it was delicious!! haha.

When Stressed...eating helps!! (well not really but we like to think it does!!).

On a brighter note, I have made time for a long overdue visit with my BFFL ~ Kylie Reid, who I went through school with.  Had the best times with.  Rode horses with.  And our catch up was a terrific salve for the soul.  So nice to hang with old friends who know and love you … whatever state you’re in.  My afternoon with her may have only been 3hours long, but it was like a jump-start and brightened up my whole week!  Looking forward to many many more catch-ups too!

Another bonus was Leonie (from Kiwi at Heart) our bloggy friend coming back to the North from Aussie for a week, and having a catch up with her.  Now I missed catching up with her and the group in town, due to “responsibilities” … haha.. however I managed to get out and catch her at her Mum and Dads on the Friday.  What a nice catch up that was too!  Nice that Kendyl slept for a fair bit of the visit, and woke in a pretty social mood.  She fell in love with “Nana Di” (Leonies Mum) and took quite a shine to Ken (Leonies Dad) too… especially when he was paying her with imaginary money in the form of crackers!! Haha.  What a lovely catch up on all the goings on.  It was like she’d never left!! Then we tried (pretty unsuccessfully) to get a pic of Leonie and myself….for bloggy proof of the catch up of course!!… but I only got one shot of us, one of her parents and one of Kendyl and then my cam went flat.  Leonies Mum tried to snap one of us, (well….must have been a good 10 or so….) but I’m not sure if any of them actually came out as she was having “a little” trouble (right Leonie) with her daughters camera!!! Hahaha..
Nevermind, it was all good, and lovely to see Leonie again!

<<Leonies folks....>>


Then Saturday saw us Bassett Bunch heading up to Kaitaia for my Aunty Diannes 60th birthday.  Our band was playing at it, so we got there early, and set up, and because it was at the Nurses Recreation Hall, there was access to the swimming pool…. So it was a set up and then swimmy cool down on the cards!! Delicious!
The birthday was fun and it was great to catch up with all of the friends/family.

Now back home to face another week, though it hasn’t started too well with my boy home due to a chest infection!
Oh well…roll on roll on…..

How’s your weekend gone?

Friday, 10 February 2012

What's been going on?

Well...answering that question seems to take forever lately.

My poor Dad has been in Middlemore Hospital, and will remain there for many a week yet whilst he recovers from a pretty major surgery.  My Dad is a very RARE type of person/patient.  He is the kind that NEVER moans, NEVER complains, is too laid back and compliant, to the point where it's sometimes to his detriment.  He doesn't want to be a pain....when he SHOULD be.  He is quiet so the nurses/doctors think he's okay, and he has a high pain threshold which means when he is experiencing some pain..... it's off the scale!!

So this is what's happened.

He's had a very involved "skin flap rotation graft", (the first attempt they had a couple of years back ended in failure, and leaving a pretty big nasty wound on his hip area).  Just to bring you up to speed...My Dad's a paraplegic, he's been in a wheelchair for the last 30 years...that's more than half his life.... it was the result of a motorbike accident.  He's always been a very independent para though, doing almost everything for himself... still working, still a vibrant part of the community, and his local iwi/hapu.  But 2 years ago, after some gross negligence from a doctor who ignored all of my Dads worries about a potential "area" on his hip.....(Dad had been back to said Doctor several times in the week preceding his urgent hospital admission, but this doctor basically fobbed him off saying "you look well, you aren't uncomfortable...you don't have a temperature" and declined giving him antibiotics for what Dad thought was the beginnings of a pressure area).  A week and a half later, my Dad was nigh on death... a very awful colour, had a raging septic infection and ended up with a HUGE wound on his hip.... Then it got worse... he got septicemia, ended up with an amputated leg... and most of a year in and out of hospital.  When he finally got discharged, they were still trying to close up the initial wound, so he needed dressings etc.

So... this admission, because the wound is very close to the bone..and in one place the bone was exposed...they have had to pull muscles around from his hip area/abdomen etc... and do a rotation graft... cover over the bone, close it up hoping that it's not going to "burst" because these things are very tight.  My poor dad is only able to move either on is side, or on his stomach...but that's it!! And will be this way for weeks until the wound heals up enabling them to try and sit him up again....
He's had to have a PICC line in as they can't get a line into his arms at all.... He's away from the family as he's down in Auckland.... He's missing the grandchildren....He's missing his life... and we're missing him, and it hurts when we have to leave him there in other peoples care.

My Mum works through the week, then on Fridays comes down to spend the weekend with Dad..then drives back to Kaitaia, then it happens all over again... so she's not only emotionally drained, but physically as well (and financially with all the travelling/accomodation/living expenses).  She spent the first 3 weeks there with him, but has had to go back as she's used up all her leave.  I try to go down where possible, or when she or he needs me to, and my brother also..  My brother and Mum had to make an emergency dash to Auckland yesterday afternoon as my Dad was losing blood again, needed another 2 units, and was quite disorientated/vague which is soooo not like him....................... so we're waiting for updates today.

It's really hard to "settle" or feel settled when your loved one is unwell.  You have to carry on, though your mind's not 100% on the things that you're doing.  You're always worried about how they're doing...and hoping they're alright.  It makes you realise though, how much we take our health and our every day lives for granted!  Puts things into perspective.

So.... that's what's been going on with us.... many flying trips to Auckland.... many hours in a hospital room........many tears.........many fears......... but also many chances to say "I love you" which we have been doing a LOT!

Wednesday, 8 February 2012

I am still alive out here....

Hi guys... and dwindling readers...!

Sorry for the "no show" here at blogspot.

Been busy

Been supporting my Mum and my Dad while Dad has his huge surgery and convalescence....so haven't been blogging much though I have LOADS to blog about... (when there's time I promise).

Still love ya though ;)